Goodbye, baby clothes

Tomorrow, I’m giving away all of Ophelia’s 0-6 month clothes, save a very few sentimental pieces. Someone’s already been by tonight to collect the breastfeeding pillow. They are just things, I remind myself. Things take up space and we’re trying to declutter.

Getting rid of these first baby things has been a surprisingly emotional decision to make. Last time, they went straight up in the loft because we planned (well, hoped) to have another baby. In our minds, it was just a matter of time.

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So choosing where they should go this time has felt like a statement about whether there will be any more babies. I always said there wouldn’t be. I have one sibling. Two has been the magic number in my mind. The plan has been for these clothes to go.

Then my little baby grew faster than expected. At four months, she’s already in 6-9. She’s already almost sitting unsupported. She’s already wriggling her way down the floors. She’s already not so little anymore. And the truth is, even if it hadn’t come so quickly, I still would have struggled to say, “No more.”

In fact, I got so worked up about these bags of clothes that I had to admit to myself that I wasn’t sure. More than that, that part of me wasn’t ready to close that door. A third child, though? Could I imagine us able to do it? Why did it seem a much bigger deal to consider a third when deciding to have a second was so easy?

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Of course, it’s not a decision that needs to be made now. At twenty-eight, I don’t feel like rushing is necessary and we would want another age gap of a few years anyway. I acknowledged that but there was still the question of these clothes.

In the end, Laurence suggested that we just put them back in the loft and see how we feel in a couple of years. Weirdly, that freed me. I think his being willing to consider the possibility of another child made me feel like I didn’t need to hold on to these objects to keep the issue open.

Goodbye baby clothes

Now, I can give them away. They can go clothe other people’s babies. I don’t have to think of them sitting up there, wondering what they might mean.


36 Comments

  1. July 17, 2014 / 9:26 am

    It’s such a big thing to get rid of everything and say no more isn’t it?! I got rid of quite a lot of stuff after number three but could never say no more. Someone asked me yesterday if this will be our last, and I said ‘I don’t know’!
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    • July 17, 2014 / 9:39 am

      I really thought I meant it when I said I wanted two only but now I wonder if you can ever be sure…

  2. July 17, 2014 / 10:05 am

    After I had my twins I was sure I wouldn’t have another. It was really hard to get rid of their tiny bit and really emotional. Now we have had a surprise baby and I honestly can’t wait to de-clutter! Strange how things change!
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    • July 22, 2014 / 11:38 pm

      I’m sorry to hear that. You certainly had reason to feel sad about giving the baby things away.

  3. July 17, 2014 / 12:27 pm

    I am just about to do a sale with all Baby’s outgrown things. My hubby doesn’t want anymore x
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    • July 22, 2014 / 11:39 pm

      I considered a sale but I just wanted them gone before I changed my mind again. It’s good you and your husband have talked about it.

  4. July 17, 2014 / 1:33 pm

    I knew we were only going to have two and so started to give away the baby clothes as soon as my son had grown out of them. The only things I have kept are their baptism outfits which I made myself.
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  5. July 17, 2014 / 1:59 pm

    I found it so hard to get rid of my baby things. I kept pulling things out to keep for them when they’re older which turned into a massive pile…which kind of defeated the point of getting rid of them!

    • July 22, 2014 / 11:40 pm

      Haha! I’ve kept a fair few with the rationale that my sister-in-law might want them. (She might not).

  6. July 17, 2014 / 2:57 pm

    Sending them off doesn’t rule out things in the future (and they can always come back if you need them) – my baby clothes went off and helped out a few friends before coming back for Littlest and all but the precious things are already off to his cousins (we have every size of white gro from premmie to 12 months – a full layette!)

    • July 22, 2014 / 11:37 pm

      Well, they’re properly gone now but I’m sure people will give us more if the time should ever arise. You should take a picture of all those white babygros laid out!

  7. July 17, 2014 / 4:10 pm

    We still have all our baby clothes packed away and I can’t quite bring myself to let them go so I know how that must have felt. It’s good to get more space though xx
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  8. July 17, 2014 / 6:03 pm

    I could not get rid of all my daughter clothes as she was born 10 weeks early it just hurts too much .

  9. July 17, 2014 / 8:33 pm

    We got rid of quite a few things after number two (though I have a ‘memory box’ of fave clothes that keeps being added to) and then we decided to go for number 3. I can’t explain it, it just felt like we hadn’t finished yet. I think we know we’re done now though 😉
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    • July 22, 2014 / 11:43 pm

      Thank you! Laurence took these. I should put that in the post, actually…

  10. July 18, 2014 / 1:10 am

    I don’t usually get emotionally atached to clothes and things. I don’t like to hoard and I prefer to have as little things as possible. But it was hard to give all the baby clothes away. I just had to keep a few as a memory. It’s amazing how much they mean!

  11. July 18, 2014 / 9:03 am

    Glad it wasn’t just me who found giving the baby clothes away so difficult. I wanted a third but hubby has always said he couldn’t cope with more than two.
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  12. July 18, 2014 / 12:52 pm

    I can’t imagine getting rid of the clothes and equipment. Even though this baby (number three) is our last, we will keep it all (unless tatty and stained!) In our loft/ when my brothers and their girlfriends have babies, they can have them, and anything that is still decent can be passed on to any future grandkids. My parents got rid of of most of our clothes, but kept lots of things – my two have slept in the carrycot that I slept in28 years ago and they use the cot sheets me and my brothers used – I want that for my grandkids!

  13. July 18, 2014 / 7:46 pm

    When I start passing on my daughters clothes, that will be it for me. With time not on my side either the baby days will be over. I have 3, and that is plenty but to put a line under it seems so final. I’m pleased your able to leave the issue open with your partner
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  14. July 18, 2014 / 8:21 pm

    These photos are absolutely beautiful. I think future babies is such a big decision, and it’s not one that can ever be made in advance, which is probably why it’s so emotional! It’s too hard to predict how things will feel in the future. & yes, the clothes seem like pressure or uncertainty sitting up in a loft, waiting… 😉 x

  15. July 18, 2014 / 10:19 pm

    I am incredibly sentimental but I agreed they are just things and one needs to step away every now and then (or I may actually become a hoarder) plus they are being put to good use somewhere else and thats always a great feeling. Ours are still all in the loft so will have to see how I deal with parting with them when the time comes. Brave Mama

    Laura x
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  16. July 19, 2014 / 1:32 pm

    I agree with your sentence – they are just things… after all if you have all things ready for next baby what will you be shopping for for 9 months?
    I love baby shopping… all these little cute things 🙂

  17. July 21, 2014 / 5:42 pm

    I am incredibly sentimental however I had to get rid of a lot of baby stuff of Max’s as we had limited space as we kept moving homes. I also cried a lot, it was a tough time.
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  18. Nikki Kamminga
    July 21, 2014 / 8:43 pm

    On the flip side, when you lose a baby and find you are pregnant again it’s going to be hard to know when to start accumulating the baby things. After the first scan? A week before baby comes? When to take the clothes down from the loft that have been there so much longer than you thought. Here’s to kind people giving them away that allow us to wait and not spend the fortune we are told we must!

    • July 22, 2014 / 11:48 pm

      I can imagine that is a really difficult part of expecting again after baby loss, Nikki. All the baby things must be a reminder of sadness and worry.

  19. July 22, 2014 / 1:38 pm

    I am about to give away our daughters things – she starts Reception in September and it is time – we won’t be having any more but it has taken me four years to accept it!

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