One week in

One week in and I really can’t believe how well it’s all going this time.

Postnatal healing

Last time I felt like I’d been hit by a bus – for months! This time, my recovery has been remarkably speedy (still taking it easy though). That’s despite having been more banged up this time. I can’t work out if that healing’s down to a better birth, a natural third stage, placenta capsules, less worry or just the fact that I have to get on with it for my toddler. Maybe it’s a combination of them all. Fingers crossed for future, but I didn’t even get first week baby blues this time.

Siblings

I’m sure all of us are experiencing a honeymoon period right now. Taitha is unbelievably loved up with Ophelia. She wants to see her first thing in the morning (a mixed blessing for me), delights in Ophelia’s wakeful periods, counts her toes, talks sweetly to her and, of course, sings “The Wheels on the Bus” to her – over and over and over.

There have been times where the stress of this big life change has peeked its way through, with sudden renewed interest in long forgotten baby toys when Ophelia’s looking at them. Or wanting to be held by the person carrying Ophelia. On the whole, she’s been pretty understanding so far that the baby needs things that she doesn’t. She understands, mostly, that I can’t feed both of them at once, for instance, and that Ophelia needs to be fed first. I’m expecting a huge parenting learning curve when it’s just me at home, trying to balance their needs.

Siblings week one.jpg

Breastfeeding

How I worried about this beforehand. I had such a hard time establishing breastfeeding with Talitha due to a missed tongue tie which led to low milk production. I just couldn’t face going through all of that again but prepared myself for the possibility.

What a surprise then when Ophelia only nursed for efficiently with lots of swallows then seemed settled. The proof was in the poo. It went yellow within the first 24 hours (normally you can expect this to take a few days). And boy there is so much poo! We got off easy in the nappy change department last time! I meant to do disposables for a bit at first but moved over to cloth as soon as her umbilical stump fell off (found disposables easier to fold) at six days. We expected to see a typical weight loss in the first 72 hours but instead she gained!

This has been such an answer to prayer, truly. Obviously, there are likely lots of breastfeeding challenges to come but I’m so relieved to find that I can make milk. And with that discovery, it’s useful having a toddler help to relieve any engorgement!

A calmer start

It does make me a little sad, though, that I wasn’t able to give this to Talitha. It’s not just about the breastfeeding or the birth but just the constant state of stress that pervaded those first days (obviously that’s related – they all are).

I know, though, that I gave her the best that I could at the time. I am a different person now. I know more, I understand more, I trust more. Just because this time it’s all different doesn’t mean that what I gave her wasn’t good. And anyway, throughout their lives, they are going to get different things at different times. That’s just the way of it.

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21 Comments

  1. March 3, 2014 / 11:42 am

    Ahh I’m so pleased it’s all going so well, especially the breastfeeding. She’s gorgeous, looks so much like you! Really looking forward to meeting her xx

    • March 8, 2014 / 8:16 pm

      Thank you. It was something I was so concerned about. Yes, I think she does as well! It’s odd because she looks a lot like Talitha did as a newborn but I always thought Talitha looked more like Laurence and, actually, Ophelia looks SO much like I did as a baby. How does that work?

  2. March 3, 2014 / 12:34 pm

    How awesome to hear everything is going so well this time around! Congratulations on your newest addition. x

    • March 8, 2014 / 8:23 pm

      It just couldn’t be more different than the first time! Thank you.

  3. March 3, 2014 / 1:59 pm

    SO pleased to hear you are enjoying these precious days. I completely identify with the regret of not being able to offer this to your firstborn – I have been thinking about this a lot of late. There’s no point in regretting what is done, but it’s useful reflection for what may need to change in the future. By nature however our first children are the ones we make all the mistakes with – on the plus side, there are clear benefits to being a first child, so it all evens out! Good luck and can’t wait to read more from you on your journey as a mother of two. xx
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    • March 8, 2014 / 8:17 pm

      That’s it. I keep thinking that they both get different things so even if it’s not perfectly “even”, there is some measure of equality.

  4. March 3, 2014 / 2:07 pm

    ophelia is such a lovely name! and what a cutie. good to hear things are going well šŸ™‚
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  5. March 3, 2014 / 9:50 pm

    Glad things are going well, she is the cutest. My girls keep saying how cute she was!! Xx
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  6. March 4, 2014 / 1:28 am

    First of all congratulations – she is adorable and I am zoo happy for you that it’s all going smoothly and that the breastfeeding is going well – my son was also tongue tied – luckily we managed to get through the rough times and fed him into the toddler years but I know just what you mean. It’s lovely that your eldest is understanding and caring and you feel less stressed this time round. So happy for you šŸ™‚

    Laura x
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    • March 8, 2014 / 8:20 pm

      Thank you! Yeah, somehow I managed to keep feeding Talitha despite tongue tie issues, which is helping a lot with engorgement at the moment! I’m grateful that we’ve managed to keep going.

  7. March 4, 2014 / 8:40 am

    Ophelia is so unbelievably gorgeous and so great to see you all out yesterday. Talitha was so sweet with her new sister and you look like you are all doing so well! x
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  8. March 4, 2014 / 10:21 am

    was so lovely seeing you guys yesterday and SO ADORABLE to see Talitha be a big sister, I must admit it made me a little broody! šŸ˜‰ you are doing to fantastically, you give me hope for an easier start with a second one day x
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    • March 8, 2014 / 8:21 pm

      Haha! I was going to ask in jest whether it made you broody to hold her but I didn’t want to be annoying! šŸ™‚

  9. March 4, 2014 / 9:16 pm

    So pleased it’s all going so well – and as someone who knows only too well the pain of tongue tie, I am SO happy you’re having such a great time with BF!
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    • March 8, 2014 / 8:22 pm

      There are so many of us. Needs to be better care in place for tongue ties, I think!

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